Although not a new subject, by now, most people have heard of the connection between the mind and emotions. however, what seems to surprise many is just how closely connected the two are, and how they affect self improvement. Emotions dominate our actions whether we like it or not, even when we don't want them to. For many, the expression of emotions signifies weakness. Often people hold them in, rationalize or simulate emotions. Emotions or feelings will always be felt no matter what you do, therefore the old saying "bricks and stones can break my bones but words won't hurt' is quite untrue.
The ability to keep emotions locked away is futile because it holds the rest of your body captive. Trying to replace a negative emotion with a positive doesn't really work.
How many of you have lost a pet to either illness, old age, or just good old fashioned lack of care. Did replacing the pet with a new one REALLY make you replace the loss of a pet? You may say of course, or yes...However, you still remember the pets name, and you may call the next pet the same name or use any other of the numerous rituals used to remember the first pet.
Now, imagine at your current level of life you have a fight with a loved one. That fight in turn ruins your whole day. You may be able to function during your day as if nothing is wrong, yet others notice that you are "off" a bit. The state of being "off" or ill tempered is a direct result to the fight you had. Imagine if everyday you go through this continuously is there enough money and or prestige in the world to make up for the way you feel?
In today's society we have allowed ourselves to be bullies toward others and cruel, untruthful all in the name of "if we treat people well, they will just step on us" mentality. It will be true so long as people hold on to that belief. That belief is what proves you right when someone does ill treat you. You are prepared with your own negativity to get right back. It becomes a war of sorts.
Many think there is no time to reflect on our perception of reality, and choose to push down the negative feelings They grow inside you and grow up and out even worse than what you started with. The biggest concern with those of us who ar involved in the quest for self improvement is how to eliminate the negativity completely.
Mental health or self improvement is the ability to create a change for the best. Meditation, NLP, Huna, Silva Method, Reikki are just a few of the programs out there that help us get in touch with the feelings that are holding back our ability to change. Once we reach those areas in the deeper part of our mind, and FEEL the pain that we have been holding on to (by not releasing it or even acknowledging it) we will see noticeable change almost immediately.
Being completely happy all of the time is close to impossible but you want to reach a point where you can look at your life and count many moments where you experience utter joy.
When your reality is too overwhelming you can try this simple exercise to help shift your perception. First find a quiet place (if possible) but at least clear your mind. Tell the wandering thoughts to get out. Second take a deep breath. Third create a safe place to be in. A safe place may be a song, a physical activity, or an imaginary place in your mind. Being in a safe place gives your mind a time to rest from whatever negativity you are thinking. After your mind clears you may be tempted to stay in your safe place all of the time. That is not a good idea, the safe place is a tool to help you shift your negativity by helping you get immersed in a new thought process through a new action. After you leave your space you will have more energy and information to deal with the issues around you.
To find out getting in touch with our feelings, search for the above mentioned programs and I am sure there are others to see what closely fits your style. Since computers allow us the ability to seek out information almost instantly, then the cost of mental health upkeep can be relatively low.
Malka Maxwell lives on the East Coast of the United States with her children. How To Get Ahead With Resumes (revised) is her first published book.
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